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Why The Law of Attraction Does NOT Work For You
By Todd | September 28, 2007
The “law of attraction” has a very enticing promise: the ability to manifest anything you want through belief and intention. But does it work?
Some people are very successful with attraction (just watch The Secret to see 20+ personifications of it) while others fail time and time again. I think a primary reason people fail is that they have a mindset that does not allow attraction to work its magic. More often than not, these inhibiting belief systems are below the radar screen and reside in the subconscious mind…making them really tough to overcome.
The purpose of this article is to provide 4 questions you should ask yourself before you try and implement “attraction”. Answer these 4 questions as honestly as you can, and see if you start to uncover some “non-attraction-allowing” beliefs deep within you. Before I get to them, let me share an incredible recent experience:
When I started talking to my girlfriend about attraction, her response was “yes Todd, I am very attracted to you”, but then when I explained what I meant about the law of attraction she had a more typical reaction: “OK, than I will start to feel more money coming into my life, because that’s what I want”!
The following day when she was paying for lunch, Irina (my girlfriend) noticed the cashier staring at the quarter she had just given her. The guy on line behind her asked to see the strange looking quarter, and after inspecting it told her she was in possession of a pretty rare coin.
A few hours later, she did some research online and learned that she was indeed the owner of a very rare quarter and depending on its condition might be worth up to $2,500!
Talk about attraction: The day before she agreed (almost begrudgingly) to try and attract more money in her life and the very next day she learned that the very money in her pocket was worth more than she knew…and the money she seeked to attract came to her in the form of money itself!
Irina was certainly a “newbie” in terms of purposefully trying to attract things in her life; but it worked for her because she has an internal belief system that allows the law to manifest. Ask yourself these questions and see if you really have what it takes to make attraction work for you:
1. Are you REALLY open-minded?
Deep down, do you really believe that you can manifest things simply by habituating the art of believing in them? If not, attraction will not stick for you. It is absolutely necessary to examine your most basic beliefs, and uncover your most innate skepticisms, to enable attraction to ensue.
What you can do: If you answered “no” to the above question, talk to someone who has made attraction work for them. Query this person about their internal beliefs and find out how they have come to accept attraction as reality.
2. Do you believe coincidences are random, or do you feel they mean something greater?
Coincidences are the physical manifestation of attraction, and the gateway to understanding it. If you do not believe they mean something broader, than attraction will not work for you. When the coin situation happened to Irina, she remembered our conversation from the day before and immediately understood that there was a connection.
What you can do: When coincidences happen, keep physical track of them. Write them down on paper. By focusing your attention on coincidences you will attract more of them and ultimately develop a greater sense for what they mean.
3. Are you ready to WORK HARD?
So many people have become excited about what attraction implies, only to complain that it doesn’t work for them soon after. The most difficult part of the law is to cultivate the routine of monitoring your thoughts. Checking in constantly to what you are thinking is the key to making attraction work. Its hard work, and you have to ask yourself if you up for the challenge!
What you can do: When you begin down this path, it can be helpful to quantify at the end of each day what % of time you spent in positive attraction mode and what % of time you spent in negative thought patterns. Physically write it down so you can SEE the results. This practice can be extremely enlightening and is an integral piece to attracting more of what you want…
4. Are you in for the LONG HAUL?
Attraction is a life-long practice. Although you may get lucky and manifest something pretty quickly (like Irina), it does not mean attraction will always work for you. For the practice to be truly beneficial, it is necessary to cultivate it over the long-term and purposefully accept it as part of your every day experience.
In conclusion, I believe the laws of attraction CAN work for anyone. The first step is to ask yourself the right questions and do a little digging into your subconscious mind…it is there you may find the answers to why attraction does not work for you!
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I have trouble accepting this. Understand, I know this law is true. I See the universe or whatever it is wanting to give me the world ( figuritivly speaking of course) but i block it somehow and cant overcome allowing myself failure and improper management from others, I know am talented and gifted, i see it all in front of me I just cant reach out my hands and take it>.??? I don’t know what to do.
Posted by: kiley cobb on November 30th, 2007 at 11:09 pmHi Kiley– yes, it is easier to understand this law intellectually than to actually integrate it in our lives. I totally hear you. There are a bunch of things you can try. First, I wrote two follow-up articles on this topic, the first talks about positive thinking, and the second details the power of using affirmations. These are two great tools to try.
Here are the links, and if you want to speak further about this, offline, feel free to email me directly!!
http://www.wethechange.com/how-to-break-out-of-bad-habits-using-affirmations/
http://www.wethechange.com/7-effective-ways-to-implement-positive-thinking/
Posted by: Todd on December 3rd, 2007 at 11:23 amHi….I am retired and learned about this many years ago when I was a child…from mom. It wasn’t explained the same way, but it was close.
In short believing is something people can do easily and other find it difficult to do.
I remember when they told me in order to enjoy Scotch, it takes awhile to acquire the delight as it tastes lousy. Learn to ride your bike or become a piano player or learn almost anything worthwhile and at first you doubt, but stay with it and it will come to you…..practise. Even untalented people with no music instinct can become a dynamite piano player with practise and do it.
I know that this works and is true as I have done it all my life with amazing results. I hardly ever was able to even mention that things just came to me easily….every job mysteriously appeared…I took them and felt lucky. Then I made a list of things I would like to have….lots of things….even little things….one was a five string banjo. I got them all…every one of the items on my list and the banjo came as a birthday gift from a banjo teacher that overheard me say I wanted to learn. It is a fine banjo too…not a junker with a great case too. I still have it as a reminder of all this.
I get a lot of inspiration from the guy that said you can’t see electricity, but wow…it helps people worldwide and no one seems to understand it.
So this is free and works every time just the same as gravity….no exceptions or special people, etc.
So just do it…..watch your thoughts. We have to do this anyhow. Remember either we control or emotions or those emotions control us. And thoughts create emotions…right….so you are involved whether you believe it or not.
I had a really pretty girl friend that kept saying she had low self esteem and couldn’t do this or that…..said it all the time.
But she was very good at her difficult job and said she was good at that…very good. I said see…it works….she said no no . Think of what she could have had if she chaned her self conversation and attitude to positive.
So in my mind…there it is….it is what it is and we need to work it…it is easy too.
People will say….yeah yeah yeah, but….
So what is your mind set ? Do you know that it works for stopping smoking, drinking and drugs too. Set your mind properly and stay with it.
I did it with smoking and drinking. Once I decided to just do it and stop complaining about if I have to stop, what a bummer to I am now a non smoker/non drinker and feel great, save money and avoid cancer and DUI’s….lots of benes that far exceed the pleasure of hangovers and cig expense/smoke etc.
Sorry I rattled on, but don’t be the poor guy/gal that could change their life in an hour of self readjustment and continue on a miscellaneous life…try hard…work at it….do it today.
Posted by: Phil on April 22nd, 2008 at 3:52 pmThanks for the thoughtful comments Phil, and your points are well accepted here. I appreciate it…
Posted by: Todd on April 22nd, 2008 at 8:50 pmTodd