Personal growth is defined simply as: the quest to improve one’s self.
Once you start down this path, there are countless people, books, magazines, groups, ideas, meetings, movements, etc…that provide you the opportunity to become a happier, more fulfilled person!
In fact, there is so much “good stuff” out there that it can get confusing. Should you follow Buddhism or Kabbala, should you meditate or say affirmations, should you quit your job to write or stay at your job and just learn how to do it better?
Often times, personal growth enthusiasts become so encsconced in the varying philosophies that they become lost and depressed. That kind of defeats the purpose, don’t you think!
In this article I will cover a very simple framework for your personal
development. I call it the 4 Pillars of Effective Personal Growth, and you can use this as a general guide as you awaken to greater realities:
Step 1: Make a Conscious Decision To Grow
If you want to really implement transcending changes in your life, it is necessary to make the conscious choice to improve yourself.
This initial step may be achieved by something as simple as reading an article like this and saying “yes, I am ready to create a better life for myself” or “yes, I am ready to deal with the bad habits I have” or “yes, I am willing to face my inherent fears and move beyond them”.
Believe me, this is a huge step. Once you throw it out there that you are ready to grow and transcend your negative “ways of being”, then you have taken a massive stride towards creating a more fulfilling life for yourself.
ACTION STEPS: Read books and articles. Speak to people who you feel are constantly growing and expanding their universe. Surrounding yourself with growth will initiate growth within you.
Step 2: Pinpoint Your Major Areas of Struggle
We all have a few areas in life where we consistently display patterns of struggle and doubt.
For me, the issue of “career” has always been a major inhibitor of fulfillment. I have spent so much time focused on it, worrying about it, planning for it, etc…that at times it has been hard to see the forest through the trees.
Become aware of areas in your life where you are always trying SO hard, but end up frustrated time and time again. Begin noticing how constant attention in this area usually causes more stress and anxiety than a solution.
ACTION STEPS: Now that I have you thinking, write down your thoughts. Start a journal and take physical note of the areas you constantly struggle. Writing is awareness, and awareness acts like a light in the darkness.
Step 3: Seek Out Information
If you truly wish to grow, it is critical to BE OPEN and allow yourself to explore avenues that a short time ago may have seemed strange, or out of the ordinary.
Because there is an endless world of people, information, events, places, websites and movements in which personal growth transpires, I can only share with you a few examples from my own experience.
Last week, I posted an article Spirituality: What I Have Learned So Far where I talk about my first spiritual experience. That moment was certainly out of the ordinary for me at the time…but I went with it because it felt “right”.
Since then I have become involved with many things that I previously would have thought of as strange; I have traveled and spent time in Sedona AZ, taken a Landmark Forum, attended the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, read innumerable books, started this blog, and on and on…
These are all physical manifestations of my own personal growth, and tangible pillars that I can point to and say “yea, right here was a big learning and growth moment for me”.
ACTION STEPS: Be open to growth experiences in your life. Start by writing down 5 pillars of your own experience; key moments where you learned something significant. They can be anything from a person you’ve met, an article you read, or a TV show you watched. Make sure to write down why this experience was integral.
Step 4: Ride The
Once you start down the path of personal growth, and begin seeing the benefits, things begin to happen at a quicker pace. For example, I sometimes feel that my first spiritual experience in Central Park (the one I speak of in the previous article) was a beginning for me.
Looking back, I notice that it took a long time for the next tangible stage to manifest itself in my life (maybe a few years). The next one was shorter, and as my growth ensues I establish new pillars in a quicker time frame.
I call this “riding the wave” which is the equivalent to living in the moment, and being present to growth opportunities all the time. And what a way to live!
ACTION STEP: Start riding the wave in your life, and seek out growth experiences all the time. Begin realizing that life is more exciting when you are learning new things, connecting with new people, and making things happen!
Once you get to this point, you become a “doer” instead of a “contemplator”…and your life becomes magical!
So there you have it, a pretty simple and straighforward approach to personal growth: 1) Make a conscious choice; 2) Notice your major roadblocks; 3) Seek out information; 4) Ride the wave of your experiences!
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